Confessions of an ISFJ

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October 2017

22 People Share The One Thing They Wish The ISFJs In Their Lives Understood

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1. “Thanks for being the most loyal people I know.” –ENFJ

2. “Bottling things up and refusing to let the people in your life know that you’re upset with them hurts infinitely more in the long run (for both you and the other person) than just sucking it up and talking it out does.” –ENFP

3. “Your wisdom is underrated.” –INTP

4. “Not everything is a challenge to your sense of duty. And it’s often more hurtful to sacrifice the needs of the many for the needs of the few (or the one). The martyr syndrome doesn’t always pan out.” -INFJ

5. “You are some of the most genuine and kind people in life. NEVER let anyone tell you that it’s a weakness.” –ENFJ

6. “Thanks for protecting me. Sometimes you drive me nuts with trying to protect me by getting my head out of the clouds, but I know your heart is in the right place. I love you.” –INFP

7. “Stop being so passive-aggressive. If you don’t like me, then tell me.” –ESFP

8. “You’re actually super goofy and creative, it makes you easy to talk to even though we don’t typically approach things from the same angle.” –ESTP

9. “Just because you are so damn sensitive doesn’t mean that everyone must comply with that.” –ISTP

10. “Your introversion is beautiful. You don’t need to be the life of the party to win hearts. Let people get to know you and they will undoubtedly fall head over heels.” –ENFP

11. “Try being your own person and creating your own life instead of absorbing your current significant other’s… be your own independent person!” –ENFP

12. “I appreciate the self-sacrificing, but if you tell me what you need, it can be a two way street. You don’t always have to give of yourself.” –ENFP

13. “I truly admire your ability to provide things for everyone without asking for anything in return.” –INFP

14. “You guys hold the world together, and I think you don’t realize quite how much we all depend on you. You’re fiercely loyal, humble and hardworking. Don’t let people take advantage of you. You will be able to give more over the course of your life if you can give freely from your heart, not from shame, guilt or obligation. Draw those boundaries now so that you can give from strength. You are worth loving deeply, I hope you know that.” –INFJ

15. “Being passive aggressive doesn’t make anyone want to be around you. If you’re unhappy, please just say so in a way that can bring about growth and change in both of us. Avoiding someone and then pretending to their face that everything fine does no one any good.” –ISTJ

16. “Change is a process that’s usually uncomfortable, and it’s okay to be uncomfy for some time because I’m sure with the right mindset, you might just be having the best time of your life.” –INFP

17. “It’s ok to open up to me, it’s ok to share your thoughts and feelings with me. I’m sorry if I get so caught up in imagining the future, that I forget the here-and-now and the details, and that sometimes I scare you.” –ENFP

18. “Please open up to me and let me get to know you. Please initiate friendship with me. I love other ISFJ’s, particularly ones who are as inquisitive and passionate as I am.” –ISFJ

19. “Do not feel guilty if you are not loving or giving enough. Your value does not come from how much you give to others.” –ENTP

20. “I’m sorry for not reminding you how treasured you are more often.” –INFJ

21. “It’s ok to voice your needs – in fact it’s better that way so I know how to accommodate you.” –INTP

22. “You are like warm cups of tea to my soul. Seriously, thank you so much for taking care of people in real, tangible ways.” –ENFP


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Oct 29, 2017 286 notes
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Fictional character analysis: ISFJ

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Awww, the ISFJ … such a common type, yet so often pigeon-holed as boring soccer moms who’s primary choice of activity is reading a Danielle Steele novel with a cup of herbal tea. And yest in fiction, they have been portrayed as some of the most intriguing, fascinating and heroic types out there. Not to mention a good number of intricate villains as well.

Introverted Sensing (Si): Unlike the ISTJ which is usually depicted as this anally by-the-book type authoritative type, The ISFJ’s Si in fiction is often quite fascinating. It is usually a vast world of experiences that weigh heavy on their hearts and minds, often in the form of trauma which gives way for either a natural protagonist or antagonist. Since they are often on the more “tragic” side however, chances are your typical ISFJ characters is plague by haunting memories and lifetime emotional scars, all of which will be revealed to the audience piece by piece giving us great insight into the character and why they do the things they do. In many cases however, their Si will be shown in some stereotypical way, such as them being very obedient or blindly loyal to someone who mistreats them. But, storylines (and other functions) are bound to make the fictional ISFJ want to break free from this at some point. 

Extroverted Feeling (Fe): Interestingly Fe tends to be downplayed in ISFJ character. Probably because a mysterious introvert whom is focused on pleasing people doesn’t make for a compelling character and thus, Fe in their case will often come off as Fi. But the fictional ISFJ is typically very assertive when dealing with people. They usually have great insight and know what they want from others. Where Fe tends to shine is that the ISFJ character is often the glue that holds their group together, the one whom is often seen as a little too safe and boring, yet the go-to person for advice and usually everyone’s BFF on some level. They are also very keen at keeping their more wild friends in check. This is especially prominent in the token “final girl” in horror movies, a.k.a the most stereotypical archetype of the ISFJ. The ISFJ character also tends to be very self-sacrificing. In horror movies for instance, their focus is on protecting others instead of, you know, getting the hell out of there. Which is often a great pretext for a bloody final fight with the killer or supernatural entity.

Introverted Thinking (Ti): Lying dormant in every fictional ISFJ is an inner badass, and when it awakens it usually takes the form of hardcore Ti as if to say “Screw it! I’m going to handle this MY way!” Another recurring trait is their analytical and inquisitive nature. ISFJ characters are often natural detectives, although it can take them a while to get into that mode given that it’s a tertiary function. Every ISFJ character seems to be equipped with a (and pardon the expression) bullsh*t threshold, and of course you will see them reaching their boiling point before the movies ends. 

Extroverted Intuition: (Ne): some people seem to assume that Si-Doms are incapable of metaphorical comparisons. Well just listen to Norman Bates’ speech and how he compares people to his stuffed animals. Although it is true that you will often catch your fictional ISFJ constantly dreaming of “more” but always finding themselves bound to their everyday life circumstances and responsibilities, a trait this sadly true in real life as well. Inferior Ne can allow protagonists to dig deep into the antagonist’ psyche and defeat them by hitting where it hurts, whereas in ISFJ villains, Ne can make them lose all touch with reality and go completely insane to scary, scary levels. Again, Norman Bates and for good measure, Annie Wilkes. 

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