so can an ISFJ resemble extroverts with their Fe? i have a lot of extroverted qualities but i personally feel that i’m an introvert deep down. so how can you tell the difference between ISFJ and ESFJ? also side note do ISFJs also define themselves by external standards and care what others think like Fe doms do?
I have seen my ISFJ best friend ‘turn on’ Fe and act like an extrovert in a social group … but at the end of the day she still wants to go home and crash. After being out and about and social for that long, she winds down and needs to sleep it off or go into her room for awhile. She dreams about long weekends with the house all to herself.
Extroverts get bored of that very quickly and start texting all their friends, if they can’t call them or see them in person or have nothing to do. :P
I’ve done four comparisons of these two types in the ESFJ x ISFJ tag.
Would you say your flaw is not considering all possibilities and/or feeling threatened by multiple perspectives (inferior Ne) or a dislike of detaching on an emotional level and analyzing your loved ones ruthlessly (inferior Ti)?
Under stress, do you turn into Rory Gilmore and think about the 453 ways this could ruin your future (ISFJ) or do you become like Caroline Forbes and wail, “WHY? WHY IS THIS HAPPENING???” as you try desperately to understand it instead of just dealing with it (ESFJ)?
Hello. I was wondering what are the sterotype of (the function) extroverted feeling? And what are the real (function) extroverted feeling like? Also could a extrovert exuse themselves from people? I mean when they started to get tired of/or they get exhausted of socializing? And what are the clear difference between ESFJ and ISFJ?
Stereotype: shallow, people-pleasing, with no morals of their own.
Reality: strong-willed, opinionated, in harmony with the group, strong ideas about right and wrong based on how it impacts everyone involved.
Extroverts can and do need time alone, but the difference between them and an introvert is that the introvert needs a longer period of isolation to recharge whereas the extrovert can power down / back up and be ready to socialize again in a shorter amount of time. Think of it as the extrovert needing a couple of hours alone after an event, vs the introvert needing a couple of days alone.
ESFJs are far more social and vocal about their views than ISFJs. ESFJs tend to want to address issues as they happen (Fe-dom) so they are often assertive in handling situations as they unfold and do not shy away from conflict, in the sense that if they feel it needs addressed, they are going to address it. The ISFJ is less comfortable doing this and less in tune with their own feelings, so they may delay, rationalize, hide out, and/or avoid this discussion for awhile, until Fe demands they clear the air. ESFJs are quicker to take action, more likely to pronounce an instant Fe-judgment, and have greater and easier access to tert-Ne, which makes them interested in many things and/or ideas; ISFJs are perceiving dominants, which means they are much slower to decide, and all their judgments are based on their personal subjective sensory experiences and what they are familiar with, rather than on objectivity (unlike Fe-dom) based in social standards of appropriateness; they also have more Ti, which means they want to build an idea in their mind of how the ‘system’ of reality works, and have a stronger capacity to do this than ESFJs.
Under stress, Fe-doms become obsessed and/or distracted by the WHY – why is this happening? what caused it? etc. This can prevent them from actually focusing on FIXING IT or DEALING WITH IT. This is their inferior Ti, glitching. Under stress, the ISXJ goes into Ne, which imagines a bunch of different situations they cannot control, mostly negative, about how this is going to ruin everything, which takes them out of their comfort zone. This is inferior Ne glitching.
I have two friends, an ESFJ and an ISFJ. The ESFJ is never home, because she’s out socializing, and within 10 minutes of knowing her, I knew ALL ABOUT her likes, dislikes, what she thinks is wrong with the world, etc. If she comes over, she only leaves under duress / when it gets late, and when I’m at her house, she begs me to stay another hour. The ISFJ comes home and crashes after work, she does “alone” projects such as knitting, and she doesn’t e-mail me for weeks on end because she doesn’t feel like socializing. I’ve found out her likes and dislikes a little bit at a time, over 15 years.
*jumps on bandwagon* What does a stereotypical isfj look like as a fictional character? Please & thank you.
Often the sweet ‘girl next door’ heroine in romantic comedies, or the ultimate ‘nice guy’ hero in other romantic comedies, the ISFJ character is loyal, hard-working, and doesn’t much care for change, but blossoms with inferior Ne when someone new and/or exciting shakes up their world (turning them to writing, introducing them to the arts, and/or urging them to experiment outside their comfort zone). They are sometimes the best friend of the more flamboyant heroine or hero and, on occasion, the tormented, people-loving vampire.
Hey, can you give me a beginner's insight into the enneagram stuff probably devoid of stereotypes because most of the internet contains very stereotypical understanding of almost everything.
The short version?
Enneagram describes what you most fear and describes how you cope.