Confessions of an ISFJ

Confessions of an ISFJ

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The role of Inferior Ne

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SUBMITTED BY Steve

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It’s been brought to my attention that many ISxJs mistype themselves as their NP counterparts because A) They relate to having all sorts of ideas B) They find themselves creative and C) They don’t relate to all the stereotypes associated with ISxJs. 

Well, guess what? Everyone can be creative and have tons of wacky ideas. Even the Ni/Se-Se/Ni people. But ask yourself is that is your main drive in life. Not saying that NP types just run on unrealistic ideas but that abstract connections in the sensory world is usually their default method. 

Ask yourself if you exhibit any of these instead:

1. You are very capable of witty, sarcastic rebuttals and usually think of it as your “fun” side

ISxJs when under stress or when they are caught off guard, can easily become real life RuPauls, just spouting off some on the cuff sarcastic (usually pop-cultured) comment to express how they feel about the issue at hand. While this behavior is usually associated with high Ne-users and it makes sense, Inferior Ne users also have this as part of their arsenal when the time comes and are usually proud of it, because it actually demanded a great deal of energy for them to come up with that sick burn and it was all worth it. I’ve always argued that Chandler from Friends is actually an ISxJ because his smart, sarcastic mouth usually comes out when he is under stress and dealing with the irrational. Fun fact but my ENTP friend and his ENFP girlfriend decided this year to buy a real Christmas tree as it is traditional and more “real”. They are getting such a kick out of it, because they too, use their inferior function (Si) for fun. 

2. You use Ne to placate all possible negative outcomes

This is really the calling card for ISxJ types. They evaluate a situation, then go Ne crazy under stress and then re-evaluate the situation again from all possible angles thoroughly and meticulously finding a solution to all possible outcomes. Someone hasn’t replied to you on Messenger after 2 days? Maybe they’re busy, so then just wait. Maybe they’re mad at you so then, just wait and if there’s still no reply, confront them. Still no reply after all this time? Maybe it’s time to just cut them loose and move on. In either case, you know you have a strong answer for any scenario. There’s also the possibility that this person will contact you way later down the road because you HAVE been a loyal friend despite whatever beef they have with you and they recognize that. And in this case, you should be more than prepared to handle them. 

3. You use Ne to break yourself out of rut or unhealthy routine. 

Whether it is something really serious as absolutely hating your job or something way more light-hearted such as being tired of ordering Chinese every Friday night. Ne is there to help you break free of those chains. In the former case, you are a Si-Dom so you know better than anyone what your strengths and weaknesses are. So it’s time to use the latter to look for greater opportunity where you will be seen as extremely valuable. You owe it to yourself. In the latter case, you might wanna check out more “crazy” recipes online and treat yourself. You might actually have fun and a great sense of accomplishment in doing something new that actually works for you. 

There’s also the whole unhealthy relationship thing. Please don’t stay with an abusive partner out of blind loyalty, that’s just stupid. 

So in short, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having inferior intuition. It doesn’t stop you in the least bit from being creative. Your virtue is being grounded, realistic and loyal. You DO have intuition and it’s there to help in your hour of need. Don’t mistype yourself as INxx because bias tests tell you the latter are superhuman. They have their own virtues for sure, but so do you. Celebrate them. ISxJ also have Tert Fi and Ti which is their constant reminder that they are they’re own rebellious person with their personal quirks, not some drone who just goes blindly with what society asks of them. 

The Intuitive Bias

whats-my-mbti:

If you are…

ENTJ: You are an amazing lightning-calculator of optimal allocations of capital and labor resources in grand global corporate or military undertakings. Your only weakness is that you are just so amazing and competent at everything that you often lose track of your ~feelings~

ESTJ: You can be middle-management of an assembly line or a construction foreman or something.


INTJ: You are a strategic mastermind, quietly manipulating the course of external events from the shadows, smirking as your enemies trap themselves in your cleverly-laid invisible snares. Your mind is a labyrinthine complex of contingency plans and flexible strategies that allow you to overcome any challenges or obstacles.

ISTJ: You like to follow rules and you can organize calendars or whatever.


ENFJ: You are a giver, a wonderful friend, a diplomat using his intuitive understanding of interpersonal relations to manipulate the feelings of individuals and crowds for the greater good.

ESFJ: You’re good at organizing office birthday parties and book clubs.


INFJ: You have the righteous introspection of Jesus, the charisma and principles of Gandhi, and you are amazing at internalizing the pain of others and empathizing with their true struggles. The only dark side is that you might be so good at this that you become HITLER because you’re so devilishly smart and amazing.

ISFJ: You can bake cookies and take care of gardens.


ENTP: You are a clever, quick-witted inventor, endlessly creative with loopholes in systems of logic and always fast with a joking retort during a debate. You’re a whiz-bang lawyer or a famous entrepreneur, following your amazing vision.

ESTP: You can do x-treme sports and be a club promoter.


INTP: You can be an Einstein, a Darwin, a Dawkins, an amazing thinker, producing a formidable corpus of thought and theory that will influence science and philosophy for generations to come.

ISTP: You can fix cars.


ENFP: You are an inspirer, extremely perceptive of others’ thoughts and feelings, a revolutionary champion of the downtrodden, able to bring the best out of everyone, able to get people to open up like no other.

ESFP: You can party and dance.


INFP: Your richly developed inner values can blossom forth in an explosion of extraverted intuition to create new worlds and universes of indescribable beauty, and reveal an understanding of the workings of human feelings and ethics that is unrivaled. You are a beautiful soul that few can understand.

ISFP: You’re really sensitive and you can paint pictures :)

Originally from here, by /u/acornzyall on Reddit.

I think it does a good job of pointing out the flaws of how most MBTI descriptions are written, and I personally found it really funny. Of course, as you brilliant Sensors can attest, none of it is true. :)

(via funkymbtifiction)

kill-that-mbti-stereotype:

Kill the stereotype that all Si users are hyper-traditional sticklers who are holding society back

(via theisfj)

funkymbtifiction:

so can an ISFJ resemble extroverts with their Fe? i have a lot of extroverted qualities but i personally feel that i’m an introvert deep down. so how can you tell the difference between ISFJ and ESFJ? also side note do ISFJs also define themselves by external standards and care what others think like Fe doms do?

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I have seen my ISFJ best friend ‘turn on’ Fe and act like an extrovert in a social group … but at the end of the day she still wants to go home and crash. After being out and about and social for that long, she winds down and needs to sleep it off or go into her room for awhile. She dreams about long weekends with the house all to herself.

Extroverts get bored of that very quickly and start texting all their friends, if they can’t call them or see them in person or have nothing to do. :P

I’ve done four comparisons of these two types in the ESFJ x ISFJ tag.

Would you say your flaw is not considering all possibilities and/or feeling threatened by multiple perspectives (inferior Ne) or a dislike of detaching on an emotional level and analyzing your loved ones ruthlessly (inferior Ti)?

Under stress, do you turn into Rory Gilmore and think about the 453 ways this could ruin your future (ISFJ) or do you become like Caroline Forbes and wail, “WHY? WHY IS THIS HAPPENING???” as you try desperately to understand it instead of just dealing with it (ESFJ)?

- ENFP Mod

Hello. I was wondering what are the sterotype of (the function) extroverted feeling? And what are the real (function) extroverted feeling like? Also could a extrovert exuse themselves from people? I mean when they started to get tired of/or they get exhausted of socializing? And what are the clear difference between ESFJ and ISFJ?

Answer:

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Stereotype: shallow, people-pleasing, with no morals of their own.

Reality: strong-willed, opinionated, in harmony with the group, strong ideas about right and wrong based on how it impacts everyone involved.

Extroverts can and do need time alone, but the difference between them and an introvert is that the introvert needs a longer period of isolation to recharge whereas the extrovert can power down / back up and be ready to socialize again in a shorter amount of time. Think of it as the extrovert needing a couple of hours alone after an event, vs the introvert needing a couple of days alone.

ESFJs are far more social and vocal about their views than ISFJs. ESFJs tend to want to address issues as they happen (Fe-dom) so they are often assertive in handling situations as they unfold and do not shy away from conflict, in the sense that if they feel it needs addressed, they are going to address it. The ISFJ is less comfortable doing this and less in tune with their own feelings, so they may delay, rationalize, hide out, and/or avoid this discussion for awhile, until Fe demands they clear the air. ESFJs are quicker to take action, more likely to pronounce an instant Fe-judgment, and have greater and easier access to tert-Ne, which makes them interested in many things and/or ideas; ISFJs are perceiving dominants, which means they are much slower to decide, and all their judgments are based on their personal subjective sensory experiences and what they are familiar with, rather than on objectivity (unlike Fe-dom) based in social standards of appropriateness; they also have more Ti, which means they want to build an idea in their mind of how the ‘system’ of reality works, and have a stronger capacity to do this than ESFJs.

Under stress, Fe-doms become obsessed and/or distracted by the WHY – why is this happening? what caused it? etc. This can prevent them from actually focusing on FIXING IT or DEALING WITH IT. This is their inferior Ti, glitching. Under stress, the ISXJ goes into Ne, which imagines a bunch of different situations they cannot control, mostly negative, about how this is going to ruin everything, which takes them out of their comfort zone. This is inferior Ne glitching.

I have two friends, an ESFJ and an ISFJ. The ESFJ is never home, because she’s out socializing, and within 10 minutes of knowing her, I knew ALL ABOUT her likes, dislikes, what she thinks is wrong with the world, etc. If she comes over, she only leaves under duress / when it gets late, and when I’m at her house, she begs me to stay another hour. The ISFJ comes home and crashes after work, she does “alone” projects such as knitting, and she doesn’t e-mail me for weeks on end because she doesn’t feel like socializing. I’ve found out her likes and dislikes a little bit at a time, over 15 years.

- ENFP Mod

*jumps on bandwagon* What does a stereotypical isfj look like as a fictional character? Please & thank you.

Answer:

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Often the sweet ‘girl next door’ heroine in romantic comedies, or the ultimate ‘nice guy’ hero in other romantic comedies, the ISFJ character is loyal, hard-working, and doesn’t much care for change, but blossoms with inferior Ne when someone new and/or exciting shakes up their world (turning them to writing, introducing them to the arts, and/or urging them to experiment outside their comfort zone). They are sometimes the best friend of the more flamboyant heroine or hero and, on occasion, the tormented, people-loving vampire.

- ENFP Mod

captainkeyless:

INTJ *goes to bed*

ISFJ mom *opens arms for a hug*

INTJ: Really?

ISFJ: You always gave me a hug before you went to bed

INTJ: Yes, gave

ISFJ *waits*

INTJ: Alright

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intj-girl-things:

MBTI/PERSONALITY RELATED ASKS - SEND A NUMBER! (or more)

  1. XXXX-A or XXXX-T?
  2. How accurately does your MBTI type describe you?
  3. What type do you most get along with?
  4. What type do you least get along with?
  5. What are your parents’ types?
  6. For Feelers: What is your opinion on Thinkers?
  7. For Thinkers: What is your opinion on Feelers?
  8. What stereotypes normally associated with your type are true for you?
  9. What stereotypes normally associated with your type aren’t true for you?
  10. Do you like being the type you are?
  11. If you could change one thing about your type, what would it be?
  12. Do you know other people of your type in real life? If so, do you get along with them?
  13. What other types have you tested as?
  14. If you were to be of any other type, what type would it be?
  15. What is your best friend’s type?
  16. Would you consider yourself an ambivert?
  17. What is your Hogwarts house?
  18. What is your Enneagram tritype?
  19. What are your instinctual variants?
  20. What do you love most about your personality?

darkmagicianprincess:

What Exhausts Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type

ISFJ – Inconsistent People

ISFJs thrive on nurturing and caring for their loved ones. But when the people in their lives are behaving inconsistently, it makes it difficult for the ISFJ to understand how to harmonize with them. The inability to make sense of those they love is highly stressful for the ISFJ and it rapidly drains them of energy.

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Can you make a big post about Si-Ti loops? (for ISFJs)

Answer:

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Si-doms often want to stay within what is ‘familiar’ to them; what they are ‘used to,’ and what has ‘worked in the past,’ so they push away from lower functional development. This creates the rigid reputation most fictional Si-doms are known for, where they are staunchly against change / anything new.

Unlike the INXJs, who need Se as an anchor to stay rooted in reality, ISXJs need Ne in order to consider moving beyond their comfort zone / what they grew up with. When a Si-dom ignores their second function and loops into Ti, they either get stuck analyzing the past and/or rationalizing (poorly) as to why they can’t try new things and backing up the decisions they make (centered on ‘being safe’) rather than on truly analyzing their motives, intentions, and decisions for logic. Like the INFJs, they become locked in an endless loop of feeble justification and only gathering weak logical ‘arguments’ to justify their Si-dom perceptions. They will come up with “logical arguments” to excuse any problematic behaviors instead of admitting to, confronting, and dealing with them.

When someone does not want to use Ti properly, they become indecisive, insecure, super critical of others, and hate critical feedback – because the goal is self-preservation rather than self-improvement.

In a loop, an IXFJ becomes stubborn, refuses to admit to being wrong and/or change wrong ideas, perspectives, or conclusions, lacks empathy for others while believing themselves morally superior and/or a “good person”; projects their own fears, insecurities, and motives onto people in the outside world, and is prone to negativity, bitterness, and cynicism about people and their motives; only accepts other people who are in agreement with their views, and struggles to develop or maintain healthy relationships (despite wanting them). The ISXJ may use manipulation to get what they want (shallow Fe) but become highly protective of and defensive over their ‘knowledge’ and try to one-up others.

Si/Ti loops fail to move on from past events or and refuse to see any other perspective other than their Si perceptions; thus they will ignore any external evidence that challenges, threatens, or tries to re-frame their concept of former experiences, relationships, mistakes, or decisions. (For example, an ISFJ may decide the reason Ted stood up Nancy is because Ted is seeing someone else behind Nancy’s back; a Si/Ti looper would start analyzing all their past interactions with Ted and finding only evidence to support this conclusion; it would ignore his statement that he stood her up because he had an unexpected emergency with his dog. In a loop, not only is Fe missing in action – the function that would be tolerant, understanding, and want to talk things through with Ted, but Ne is absent also, so it wants to stick with the one stubborn conclusion it reached, built out of paranoid lower Ne in the first place: cheaters stand you up, the last time I got stood up, my ex cheated on me.)

Si/Ti loopers will concoct complicated and irrational “reasons” to avoid moving beyond their personal comfort zone or confront their deeper fears; but they will also suffer unhappiness because of it, because their inferior Ne will make them fearful that they are missing out on maturing, making progress in life, or having new experiences. They become socially isolated and miserable, since their Si/Fe wants to work together to impact people’s lives in the present, and when they are in a critical, fearful loop, they cannot connect to other people.

To break the loop, you need to work on utilizing Fe; in communicating openly with others, in tapping into and sensing their emotional needs before they tell you, in honestly listening to them without judgment, in thinking in terms of ‘for the greater good of everyone involved,’ in airing your feelings, in being open to intimate emotional relationships, in learning to consider each life as being equal in importance to another, in learning how to communicate in non-insulting ways that energize rather than demean people, etc.

There are plenty of self-help books, books on communication, etc. =)

- ENFP Mod