Confessions of an ISFJ

Confessions of an ISFJ

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Hello. I was wondering what are the sterotype of (the function) extroverted feeling? And what are the real (function) extroverted feeling like? Also could a extrovert exuse themselves from people? I mean when they started to get tired of/or they get exhausted of socializing? And what are the clear difference between ESFJ and ISFJ?

Answer:

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Stereotype: shallow, people-pleasing, with no morals of their own.

Reality: strong-willed, opinionated, in harmony with the group, strong ideas about right and wrong based on how it impacts everyone involved.

Extroverts can and do need time alone, but the difference between them and an introvert is that the introvert needs a longer period of isolation to recharge whereas the extrovert can power down / back up and be ready to socialize again in a shorter amount of time. Think of it as the extrovert needing a couple of hours alone after an event, vs the introvert needing a couple of days alone.

ESFJs are far more social and vocal about their views than ISFJs. ESFJs tend to want to address issues as they happen (Fe-dom) so they are often assertive in handling situations as they unfold and do not shy away from conflict, in the sense that if they feel it needs addressed, they are going to address it. The ISFJ is less comfortable doing this and less in tune with their own feelings, so they may delay, rationalize, hide out, and/or avoid this discussion for awhile, until Fe demands they clear the air. ESFJs are quicker to take action, more likely to pronounce an instant Fe-judgment, and have greater and easier access to tert-Ne, which makes them interested in many things and/or ideas; ISFJs are perceiving dominants, which means they are much slower to decide, and all their judgments are based on their personal subjective sensory experiences and what they are familiar with, rather than on objectivity (unlike Fe-dom) based in social standards of appropriateness; they also have more Ti, which means they want to build an idea in their mind of how the ‘system’ of reality works, and have a stronger capacity to do this than ESFJs.

Under stress, Fe-doms become obsessed and/or distracted by the WHY – why is this happening? what caused it? etc. This can prevent them from actually focusing on FIXING IT or DEALING WITH IT. This is their inferior Ti, glitching. Under stress, the ISXJ goes into Ne, which imagines a bunch of different situations they cannot control, mostly negative, about how this is going to ruin everything, which takes them out of their comfort zone. This is inferior Ne glitching.

I have two friends, an ESFJ and an ISFJ. The ESFJ is never home, because she’s out socializing, and within 10 minutes of knowing her, I knew ALL ABOUT her likes, dislikes, what she thinks is wrong with the world, etc. If she comes over, she only leaves under duress / when it gets late, and when I’m at her house, she begs me to stay another hour. The ISFJ comes home and crashes after work, she does “alone” projects such as knitting, and she doesn’t e-mail me for weeks on end because she doesn’t feel like socializing. I’ve found out her likes and dislikes a little bit at a time, over 15 years.

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